You can experience all the joy and passion you imagine right now, rather than waiting for a future moment.
Our time is finite and quickly consumed, making its utilization one of life’s most crucial decisions. Yet, we often postpone today’s dreams until tomorrow. Modern life’s demands offer an easy excuse: we sideline our aspirations to better manage present challenges, hoping for more time and leisure in the future to achieve our goals. Alternatively, we tell ourselves we’ll pursue our dreams after achieving lesser objectives.
In reality, fear prevents us from seeking fulfillment now. Because we see failure as a possibility, our reasons for delaying inevitable success seem logical. But if we honestly ask ourselves what we’re waiting for, we find no truly compelling reason to postpone the pursuit of our sustaining dreams.
Framed as a question, “Why not now?” drains our power to achieve ambitions. We’re so convinced we’re undeserving of happiness that we fail to see what we can do in the present to embrace it. When we decisively confront our existence and declare, “Why not now, indeed!” — we gain the power to begin transforming our lives instantly.
All the joy, passion, and contentment you envision can be yours immediately, not at some distant point. You simply need to remember that nothing stands between you and fulfillment. If you choose today to seize your destiny, you will quickly discover you hold the keys to your fate.
Instead of seeing “being lost” as a failing, consider it the universe guiding you toward self-discovery.
Life’s intricate journey often leads us astray, pulling us away from our true selves. This disorientation, however, presents a unique opportunity for profound introspection and rediscovery. It is in these very moments of uncertainty, when the familiar paths dissolve and the future seems veiled, that we are compelled to delve beyond the superficial identities we often construct for ourselves.
This deep exploration allows us to unearth and reconnect with our core essence—the authentic self that lies beneath layers of societal expectations, past experiences, and learned behaviors.
Such periods of feeling lost are not deviations from the journey, but rather integral stages designed to prompt a necessary turning inward. They invite us to question our assumptions, to examine our values, and to discern what truly resonates with our spirit. Without these moments of existential questioning, we might continue to operate on autopilot, fulfilling roles and pursuing goals that do not genuinely align with our deepest aspirations. The discomfort of being adrift serves as a powerful catalyst, urging us to consciously choose a path that is more aligned with our inner truth, leading to a life lived with greater purpose, authenticity, and fulfillment.
Instead of viewing this “lost” feeling as a weakness, consider it the universe’s gentle push towards self-discovery. Much like a caterpillar transforms within its chrysalis, shedding its old form to embrace newfound freedom, losing one version of ourselves is often a necessary step to finding a truer one.
This inward journey allows us to shed accumulated facades and reconnect with our innate passions, beliefs, and capabilities.
To begin this path of self-reflection, find a quiet moment, even if only for five minutes. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then, consider these questions:
What genuinely excites me and brings me joy and energy?
What values are most important to me right NOW and should guide my decisions?
If I could design my ideal day, what would it look like?
Allow your imagination to soar without judgment, simply observing the thoughts that arise. There are no right or wrong answers. This simple act of introspection can be a powerful first step in rekindling your purpose and direction.
We will always face external opinions on how to live, but our own inner voice should be our guide.
Sixteen months ago, I embarked on a self-discovery journey that is now nearing its end. While I had specific areas I intended to explore, I’ve learned unexpected and profound lessons along the way.
My first-ever journey began after graduating from high school. Growing up in a military family in the 1970s with an alcoholic stepfather, peace was elusive. Speaking out about such abusive situations felt impossible at the time.
Five months after graduation, I moved to Chicago with a friend whose family lived next door to us in Navy housing. This time away provided the necessary distance to begin my search for inner peace.
However, instead of focusing on my own needs, I found myself living in a way that pleased others. I wasn’t being true to the “broken” Cheryl who longed for peace and the freedom to be her authentic self without constant explanation.
As children, we are the recipients of our parents’ aspirations for our success in education and the pursuit of our full potential. This pattern of well-meaning influence can extend into adulthood, where friends might envision ideal partners or careers for us, and even spouses may harbor their own expectations. The people closest to us often have perspectives on how we should navigate life, stemming from affection and a desire for our happiness.
However, these suggestions can sometimes originate from unmet needs, such as a parent seeking vicarious fulfillment or a loved one wanting us to fit a pre-established role. While their input warrants our consideration and appreciation, ultimately, our own inner compass must guide our decisions.
At times, this influx of advice can become overwhelming, leading to feelings of disapproval and self-doubt. These well-intentioned suggestions may inadvertently hinder our personal choices, causing us to question our judgment. We might even find ourselves adopting others’ desires before fully understanding our own. Energetically, this can manifest as resistance or a tendency to withdraw.
It becomes essential to shed these external doubts and introspect to gain clarity on our personal aspirations.
Therefore, it is crucial to communicate our gratitude for the thoughts and ideas shared by our loved ones while firmly asserting our need to live authentically and make independent decisions. We can convey that learning from our own experiences is vital for personal growth and refining our judgment. Ultimately, our loved ones can find comfort in OUR happiness and the path WE choose, realizing that their role is to share in our joy as we pursue our goals.
Peace & Harmony, Cheryl
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Disappointment can ground us in reality and prevent us from dwelling on what could have been.
Disappointment is an unavoidable risk when our expectations aren’t met. This can lead to a range of emotions, from mild sadness to anger, directed at ourselves, others, or the world. Although disappointment is a difficult and natural emotion, there are ways to cope.
Acknowledging and processing disappointment is crucial for personal growth and emotional well-being. One effective way to move forward is through journaling about the experience. This can involve detailing your initial hopes and expectations, contrasting them with the reality of the situation, and exploring the emotions that arise from the discrepancy. By putting your thoughts and feelings into words, you can gain clarity and perspective, allowing you to process the disappointment in a healthy way. This is what I do. . . . .
Disappointment can also serve as a valuable reality check. It can realign your expectations with the actual circumstances, preventing you from dwelling on what could have been and helping you to focus on what is. This can lead to a greater sense of acceptance and peace, enabling you to move forward with a more realistic outlook.
Additionally, reflecting on the experience can help you identify any patterns or recurring themes in your disappointments. This self-awareness can be empowering, as it allows you to make informed decisions and adjust your expectations accordingly, potentially reducing the frequency and intensity of future disappointments.
What’s more, processing sorrow can foster resilience and emotional strength. By learning to cope with setbacks and unmet expectations, you can develop the ability to bounce back from adversity and navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.
Reflecting on past disappointments may reveal that some outcomes were ultimately better than our initial desires. Disappointment can lead to acceptance, wisdom, and the energy to start anew.
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To sit with your sadness, you need to have the courage to believe that you can endure and overcome the pain.
About a week ago, I spent time with people I hadn’t seen in a year. It was on my ride home after this visit that I started writing this article. I had said to them that when we get through these chaotic times, I hoped we could all find compassion and empathy for one another, instead of hating the other side. Thinking about this, and the sadness we are all experiencing, made me want to write this piece.
When experiencing deep sadness, the last thing we want to hear is that there are lessons to be learned. Amid our pain, we may feel targeted by life, overwhelmed by loss, or too tired to even try to understand the situation.
Even when disappointment and anger make it difficult to see any positive aspects of suffering, we still have an inner knowing that we will eventually move from darkness into greater awareness. Holding onto this truth, however fleeting it may seem, can bring comfort during difficult times.
When experiencing intense sadness, we must confront it directly. This requires courage and faith to endure the pain and trust that we will emerge from it. The grieving process teaches us valuable lessons. By allowing ourselves to experience sadness, we learn to both surrender and accept change.
Sadness, often perceived as a negative emotion, holds significant value in our emotional landscape. It fosters compassion and empathy, enabling us to connect with and understand the pain and struggles of others. This shared experience of sadness creates a bridge of understanding, promoting deeper connections and a sense of community.
Furthermore, sadness plays a crucial role in personal growth and development. It encourages introspection and reflection, prompting us to examine our lives, values, and goals. This self-reflection can lead to valuable insights and a greater understanding of ourselves. Sadness can also motivate us to make positive changes in our lives, fostering resilience and a sense of purpose.
Embracing sadness as a natural and valuable emotion allows us to navigate life’s challenges with greater understanding and compassion, both for ourselves and others. By acknowledging and accepting our sadness, we create space for healing, growth, and deeper connections with the world around us.
The profound knowledge and understanding we gain from navigating experiences of loss, heartbreak, or deep disappointment forge a connection to the very essence of our shared humanity. While our personal journeys through sadness are undeniably unique, and shaped by our individual circumstances and perspectives, the wisdom we draw from these experiences offers universal insights that transcend our differences.
These insights, born from vulnerability and pain, illuminate the shared human experience of suffering and resilience. They teach us about the fragility of life, the impermanence of relationships, and the inevitability of change. They reveal the depths of human emotion, from the profound sorrow of loss to the unwavering strength of the human spirit.
In addition, these experiences foster empathy and compassion, enabling us to connect with others on a deeper level. They remind us that we are not alone in our suffering and that others have walked similar paths and emerged from the darkness with newfound wisdom and strength.
In essence, the knowledge we gain from sadness, while deeply personal, is also profoundly universal. It connects us to the shared human experience, fostering fellowship, compassion, and understanding. It is through these experiences that we truly learn what it means to be human, to love, to lose, and to find strength in the face of adversity.
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