The Transitions in Life
For something new to begin, an old part of ourselves must sometimes end.
Growth often necessitates the transformation of our inner selves, a process that, while natural and vital, can be painful, confusing, or disorienting. These feelings of confusion and disorientation frequently signal an internal shift, a phenomenon common throughout human life as we progress from infancy through various stages of development. Each transition requires us to bid farewell to a former identity, the self we cultivated for that specific period.
These identities can be deeply intertwined with relationships or careers, and when an internal shift occurs, these external aspects of our lives may become unsettled. A closer examination of these surface-level changes often reveals a deeper, internal metamorphosis. For instance, we might spend a significant chapter of our lives constructing a protective shell to heal from past trauma.
However, a time may come when this very shell feels restrictive and confining, prompting a desire to move beyond the sanctuary it once provided. The growing part of ourselves cannot thrive within the boundaries of the old self’s protective structure.
The process of shedding an old self and embracing a new identity can evoke a paradoxical blend of exhilaration and sadness. We can find inspiration in observing animals that molt or shed, making way for new skin, fur, or feathers. Keeping a symbol of transformation, such as a duck feather, can serve as a potent reminder that death and rebirth are inherent to nature’s evolutionary design.
By surrendering to this process, we can release our past selves with love and gratitude, and with an open mind and heart, welcome the new, preparing for the next chapter of our lives.
Here are 5 simple rituals to help facilitate your new chapter of life:
1. Light & Let Go
- Write down on small slips of paper the habits, regrets, or fears they want to release.
- Place them in a bowl, safely burn them (or tear/shred them if fire isn’t an option), and say out loud: “I let this go and make space for what’s next.”
- End by lighting a candle to symbolize illumination and fresh beginnings.
2. Threshold Walk
- Have yourself stand in a doorway, imagining the side behind you as your past and the side in front as your future.
- Step through slowly while affirming: “I step fully into my next chapter with courage and openness.”
- This physical act of crossing creates a sense of transition.
3. Gratitude Release
- At night, write down three things from the closing chapter that you are grateful for—people, lessons, or experiences.
- Place the list in a small box or jar as a “memory capsule.”
- This honors the past while making emotional room for new experiences.
4. Vision Seed Ritual
- Provide yourself with flower or herb seeds. Before planting, have them speak their intentions into the soil (e.g., “I plant hope, growth, and love for this new chapter.”).
- As the plant grows, it becomes a living reminder of their new beginnings.
5. Morning Reset Breath
- Each morning for a week, step outside, close your eyes, and take three deep breaths:
- Inhale: “I welcome the new.”
- Hold: “I am present in this moment.”
- Exhale: “I release what no longer serves me.”
- Inhale: “I welcome the new.”
- This simple daily ritual grounds them in renewal and readiness.
Here’s to new beginnings, Coach Cher
We have the ability to inject every space we enter with positive energy, leaving a gentle and lasting impression.
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